Deep Friendships Reunited

Last Saturday I had the opportunity to reconnect with an old friend and his partner in Atlanta. We had not spoken in five years due to some really small issues that neither of us worked through at the time. I can't go back and re-write the past five years but I now have the opportunity to re-write the future with that relationship.

Tim Foster is a dear friend that always had my back. Tim was always there to pick me up when I was feeling down. Tim was always there showing me how beautiful I was on the days that I wasn't able to see it for myself. Tim's heart is as big as the state of Georgia. His partner David reflects the same characteristics as Tim and that's probably why they've been in a four and a half year relationship. They have truly built a life together and are a great example of what is possible.

Someone this past week questioned gay marriage and I stated the view I have of it. I believe some of the social behaviors we see in the gay community have been perpetuated because our relationships aren't recognized, aren't valid in mainstreams eyes. I believe a lot of gay people have just put on the stereotypes that they can't be committed, monogamous, in a serious relationship. It becomes a lot of people's reality, they start living as society has told them they can or can't. I believe I can have a loving, serious, committed, monogamous relationship with another guy no matter who recognizes it. I've got a great role model named Tim Foster to show me that!

We had a great visit in their incredible home even with me spilling my soda all over their end table and hard wood floors. Talk about having heart failure!! We went to dinner at a place near their house and I got incredibly emotional when we were leaving. I miss Tim and wish I had those five years back. I wish I lived closer where I could spend more time around him and David. I will take every opportunity in the future to spend quality time with them. Thanks Tim and David for being the role models and just all around INCREDIBLE people, I'm honored and humbled to call you both friend. I love you both.