Power of Win/Win

How often in life am I out for myself and my interests? How often in life am I out for others and the interest of the group? Is my experience coming from a genuine honest place? What do I want to gain from those around me?

I had to ask myself some of these hard questions today. I needed to have a conversation with a fellow co-worker whom I care deeply about but was showing up for me in life like a bull in a china shop.

I kept coming up with all kind of excuses why I should wait to talk with her about how I was experiencing her. I originally started out the conversation about how she made me feel. However my coach pointed out, she doesn’t make me feel anything. I feel those things cause that’s the stuff I put with how I’m experiencing her.

My coach also pointed out, why wait until September or next week? Life is happening now. He asked me if I was going for a win/win scenario with this person. If I was, why wait? How am I playing the game of life with her and my work team? I asked myself the same question when he said it. Why am I waiting? If the feedback I have is genuine from a pure place, than I owe it to her, myself and our team to have communication now.

Wow what power is in that, we are closer now than we were a few hours ago. I created the space for us to communicate. I didn’t attack and I didn’t have any ill feelings toward this person. I wanted her to be aware this was my experience with her and wanted to ensure others won’t have the same. I also wanted to protect her from anyone who might look at it from a negative or find something to use against her later.

I keep learning everyday and it’s amazing me what I’m learning!